Is it feasible to go straight from unaligned warband to independent kingdom without serving under a king?

I want to attempt to forego the part of the game where I'm working as a lord for this or that king, hoping to be granted fiefs and whatnot because this approach results in me having a kingdom that is the M&B equivalent of bordergore. I'm hoping instead to capture a town from a faction when they're in a relatively weak position so that I might build a kingdom to my own preferred geographical liking (I.e. compact and in a corner).

I'm hoping for tips on what I'll need to achieve this feat.

How will I need to approach finding a wife since I usually court a woman in the kingdom for whom I'm working?

Should I snag a town or a castle first?

Will I need to have a dyeworks in 10+ towns in order to have the income to finance a band of warriors strong enough to hold the town once I take it ( I assume I'll need to roll in with 75-100 top tier troops and fight like crazy for a while to hold the town once I take it).

Any tips would be great!

Submitted November 20, 2019 at 08:21AM by dovetc https://ift.tt/2KDaK5J