New to the game, just got a castle and getting sieged nonstop

My first time playing and I am on a ps5, I went with a Battania background and at Clan 2, i pledged my loyalty to the Battania king. shortly after, war broke out with the Northern Empire. I attacked a few smaller armies and a caravan, a vote for varagos Castle came upand they gave it to me. I wasn't rolling around with a full army a no sooner than I pull up to check put the new digs, the northen army starts sieging me. I made it through two and another large army is coming. I can't even out run them so I can't recruit more troops.

questions:

Are they attacking me more because of my skirmishes or is it solely because I'm on the border and my castle doesn't have a full garrison?

Is it possible to give up the castle?

I have multiple save files, if I go back, is it possible to not accept the castle or if I vote for another lord would they have received it?

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