lords relations low and they keep switching sides. can i stop this?

does anyone have the same problem with lords having low relations with every liege they have? I'm playing on native and i joined the words the swadians where defeated within about 4 hours of playing the game and the words invaded the vaguers. but all the jarls started to have very low relations with the king and now all i see is "lord defects" i joined lethwin far seekers rebelion to get a new king that people would like it worked for a while but then the same thing happened. The nords now have 5 jarls vs the rodocks that have about 20 and then there is more in the over two kingdoms. is there any way i can stop this?

Submitted October 18, 2017 at 02:20PM by whats_wrong_with_it http://ift.tt/2gP7zc2